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January Favorites 2024
Get my favorites delivered to your inbox each month! Subscribe here! Right now, my desk (and floor and bedside table) are overflowing with books. I order
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Black History Month
As we enter Black History Month tomorrow, I want to highlight some of the Black voices who have helped me expand my understanding of Black
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Disability and Self-Care Skills: Nail Clipping
“I have never known a person with Down syndrome who could cut their own fingernails.” I heard these words, and my stomach fell a little
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I’m Working on a Video Teaching Series About Disability and Family
Sometimes the future comes at us like an assault. A tornado of unanswerable questions that suggest chaos is about to ensue. That’s what it felt
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The Holdovers Is All About Grace
Okay, The Holdovers was just nominated for Best Picture by the Oscars. I want to submit that it is a deeply Christian film about disruptive
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It’s Always Too Much | Four Thousand Weeks
So I’m in a really overwhelming time right now. We are in the midst of a long and drawn-out move. I’m staying in a rental
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Playdates and Disability
When I had a chance to talk with NBC News about parenting kids with disabilities, I was asked about playdates. Here, in a nutshell, is
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Turning 18 and Guardianship Decisions
It’s a big deal to turn 18. For every teenager, that birthday marks a transition to adulthood. For kids with disabilities, it carries even more
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Idolatry of Intellect
I didn’t realize I’d gone into the hospital with a set of expectations, but I had. I very much had a set of expectations about
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Disability in “All the Light We Cannot See” Netflix Series
Have you watched the Netflix series All The Light We Cannot See? It is an awesome, subversive message about disability and, ultimately, about humanity. The
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Here’s the question: What am I doing?
“Just do it.” “You deserve a break today.” “Think different.” I’ve been working with a consultant for the past few months in my own attempt
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Bureaucracy and Disability
One of the things they tell you when you’re a parent of a child with disabilities is that the bureaucracy is going to be awful.
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Retreating and Reimagining
A few times a year, I spend a few nights away from my family, by myself. This time, while I’m away for the week, I’m
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Two Resources for the Season of Lent
Two Resources for the Season of Lent: 1. Small Group Guide & Video Series 2. Daily Devotional For those of you who pay attention to
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Our Song for Penny’s 18th Birthday
Penny requested a song on the occasion of her 18th birthday. She also gave us instructions on the tune—we could refer to You Belong With
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Recap of Holiday Fun
Sometimes the holidays are one long stressful reminder of all the childhood wounds and irritations and conflicts you’ve ever tried to work through in therapy.
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How to Reflect on a Just-Get-Through-It Year
“You aren’t going to figure it out. You’re just going to get through it.” My friend Patricia first said to me years ago, when I
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Penny Turns 18
Our daughter Penny turns 18 today. She’s not at home with us, as it turns out. Rather, she is at a retreat center with a